Sunday, March 19, 2017

Valentino Goes to a Funeral

We lost my Uncle while I was somewhere over Brazil.

The husband of my father's oldest sibling and a man I always knew as a farmer.  When I was a child, he was one of the circle of men that would get a seat at the dining room table on Sundays.  (Due to the number of people in attendance, the odds were roughing 1 in 12 that one could have a chair.)  These men would drink coffee and talk, and a few might smoke a cigarette.

It was this man, along with his son and another two Uncles who would form the dialog of the first poem I would ever publish.  I was between thirteen and fifteen and a teacher saw something of value in a few lines about cattle.  I had liked poetry before that day but seeing the words in print left me hooked.

Today I sat with my Aunt.  We held hands and did not stand.

I thought of the poetry in a wife's grief.  It definitely would not rhyme.

"Dust to dust" as the burial words go.

As I was walking back to the car, a friend commented that I was wearing the wrong shoes for a funeral.  A square heel, they were the better option for standing in wet grass.  As I was cleaning them later that day, I was sure that I still sank a little. After all, I had held another Uncle's arm as we stood by, watching roses in the wind, thinking of him and of our own mortality.

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